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Thanks to somerandomchic for snapping this photo at a street festival in Takoma Park, MD, and for her insightful post this morningShe puts the plame where it really belongs: with voters.

I wore my Lesbian Dad shirt to work today, which is hidden behind the wee one in the above photo.

I wore it because I can't believe about AZ, AR, and FL. And I can't believe that we're still waiting on the CA prop 8 results. I can't believe that we may have passed our first constitutional ammendment that TAKES AWAY rights from people. 

I want someone to ask me about my shirt today.  Someone I don't know. Someone who doesn't get it.  And I desperately want to have the right words to convince them that they too should be horrified.  Bring it.

But even so, I am grateful that we have a new administration, and appear to have democratic majorities in both the senate and the congress. I am grateful that we have elected a president who is not a warhog, and who will not veto an attempt to overturn DOMA and who will not veto the fully inclusive ENDA that WILL pass this year.

And I am especially grateful that all of the abortion ballot initiatives did not pass, and for the fact that our president elect will not appoint any sexist pigfucker judges to the supreme court.

And now I wait for the final CA results.

Not terribly surprising...

Thanks to buz1 for posting this quizamajig on LJ.

As one of those gold star lesbos, this result is not at all surprising. But I found it REALLY REALLY hard to take the quiz because of the conflation of sex with gender. Anyhoo, 'twas entertaining...

Klein Sexual Orientation Grid

I scored an average of 5.52

01 2 3 4 5

HeterosexualBisexual Homosexual


This result can also be related to the Kinsey Scale:

0 = exclusively heterosexual
1 = predominantly heterosexual, incidentally homosexual
2 = predominantly heterosexual, but more
than incidentally homosexual
3 = equally heterosexual and homosexual
4 = predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally
5 = predominantly homosexual, incidentally heterosexual
6 = exclusively homosexual


The idea of this excercise is to understand exactly how dynamic a person's sexual orientation can be, as well as how fluid it can be over a person's lifespan. While a person's number of actual homo/heterosexual encounters may be easy to categorize, their actual orientation may be completely different. Simple labels like "homosexual", "heterosexual", and "bisexual" need not be the only three options available to us.

Take the quiz

Happy Baba's Day! (thanks to LesbianDad)

 Happy Baba's day to me, and you, if you celebrate it.  Oh, and happy father's day, too.

I present to you - my teency weency group of LJ followers - "A Baba's Day Proclamation" from LesbianDad. You can click on the link in the title below, OR use the LJ cut.

A Baba’s Day Proclamation
Published June 15th, 2007 in Baba familias, Anima animus 
[With apologies to Julia Ward Howe.]

there have always been womanly men and manly women, and Baba’s in the latter camp, always has been, always will be, and we like it that way; and 

Whereas people like Baba, even if they may constitute a minority of the general populace, constitute at least 50% of the parents in their family, when they’re parents; and

Whereas Baba is a wonderful parent whether or not she’s socially recognized or understood, but the truth of it is that things will be a heckuva lot easier for her kids if more people considered, ideally even appreciated, that the spectrum of gender, and therefore quite naturally the roles “mother” and “father,” includes a rich band of people smack dab in the middle; and...

LD (lesbian dad) also has some interesting reflections on the challenges of Mother's Day in their family this year.  It's wordy - but in a good way - and totally worth reading if you have the time and are so inclined, titled:

The Trouble with Mother's Day (or Why I'm Glad to be a Lesbian Dad)

On mother's day, E's great aunt and uncle (ie Special Uncle J's parents) sent

somerandomchic a mother's day card - to her only.  I was surprised not to be included because I'm sure they have no clue about Baba's Day. We were quite entertained to learn that the Great Aunt called Special Uncle J. immediately after sticking the card in the mail to say "I think I just made a big mistake. Did I?"

Because he knows us so very well he replied, "I'm not sure... I'll have to get back to you." We hadn't discussed Baba's day at all with him, to my knowledge.

We love Special Uncle J.  A lot. 

E does too.  

She just doesn't remember him between visits yet. 

Found this on Queerty.

Presenting a New York Magazine article on a Sock Monkey Obama.   The article includes a response from the makers of the doll. 

Makers of Racist Obama Monkey Would Like to Transcend Racial Bias

Sorry, peeps. there is no talking your way out of your profound racism.  Even with your "Squirellary" concept, and your loosely described lumpy potato McCain.

In fact, that makes you SEXIST, and proves that you have succumbed to urban bias. Sorry! 
Please share this awesome promotional video with everyone you know. This is going to be the BEST Creating Change ever. I know, I know, it's a conference that happens once a year... can it really do that much? And does it really offer what it claims to all attendees? Yes. Yes it does. Just go. If you've never been before, this is the year to do it.

Just hit play, mkay?

When and where is this conference you ask?
February 6 - 10, 2008
Detroit, Michigan

(and yes, the hotel hosting the conference has heat)

I'd like to get some stuff for me and the baby at one of our baby showers too, mkay?

Like this, for instance.  (The black version with white print is pretty rockin'  too.)

It's from the UK of course.  Damn Brits.  Why much they be so cool?

See how much time your employees waste when you tell them the office is closing early at 12pm for Tofrigginfurkey Day. 

If you, dear reader, ever find yourself in this situation, just give your employees the whole day off instead.  You'll lose nothing, I promise.

Vote For Alexander O

He's made it to round 2 of metroweekly's Coverboy of the Year contest.  If he wins, he'll be the first FTM coverboy ever. * 

Sure, it's a popularity contest... but dontcha want to mess with the status quo? 

Go to WWW.METROWEEKLY.COM/COVERBOY/?CB=3 and to read more about him AND vote, mkay?

You don't need to live in the DC area to vote, but you can only vote once.  So, pass it on! 

* Allix was runner up coverboy two years ago. 

Check out these tattoo baby sheets! 

If only someone in the universe could justify the absurd expense of $36 on sheets for a crib.  Just one sheet, mind you.  Not even a bedding set.

Task Force, Inc., responds to House passage of non-inclusive Employment Non-Discrimination Act

“When confronted with the possibility of Congress moving forward with a bill that stripped out protections for transgender people, the activist and grassroots backbone of our movement responded almost instantaneously in unprecedented numbers with conviction, passion and political savvy. We are frustrated with this course of action, but it will not stop us from pressing forward toward our ultimate goal: nondiscrimination protections for everyone in our community.”
— Matt Foreman, Executive Director, National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, Inc.

WASHINGTON, Nov. 7 — Following six weeks of rancorous debate, the House of Representatives voted today on a version of the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA) that does not include protections on the basis of gender identity. It passed by a vote of 235 to 184.

see the rest of the press release here: http://www.thetaskforce.org/press/releases/prENDA_110707

I've learned a lot about the federal legislative press during this unexpected six week long hijack of a piece of legislation that was, when it started as H.R. 2015, a great bill. Watching the debate on the floor was LOOOONG but fascinating. (Rep. Mark Souder from Indiana is a phenomenal asswipe, but we knew this already... he just confirmed it over and over again)

And now, the LGBT politicos will continue the work they've been doing all along... toward changing hearts and minds in the federal legislature so that we can pass an ENDA that includes gender identity under and administration that won't veto it from the get go.